I Stopped Trusting My Friends’ Faces

I Stopped Trusting My Friends’ Faces

A lesson in data, hidden variables, and the danger of visual assumptions from the streets of London to the clinics of Seoul.

In , a man lived in London. His name was John Snow. He was a doctor. People were dying in the streets of London. The people had cholera. Most doctors in London said the air was the cause.

The air in London smelled like rot. People saw the fog in the streets. People smelled the waste in the gutters. The people believed the smell killed the people. John Snow did not believe the air was the cause.

John Snow drew a map. John Snow put a dot on the map for every dead person. The dots on the map clustered around a water pump. The water pump was on Broad Street. The water in the pump looked clear. The water in the pump did not smell.

The people chose to drink the water because the water looked good. The people avoided the air because the air looked bad. The people were wrong. The clear water killed the people. The bad air was a distraction.

The Error of the Yellow Candlelight

Da-eun sits across a table from Eun-ji. The restaurant is dark. The light in the restaurant comes from a candle. The candle light is yellow. Eun-ji looks good. Her jawline is a straight line. Her skin is smooth.

Da-eun sees the jawline. Da-eun sees the skin. Da-eun asks for the name of the clinic. Eun-ji gives the name of the clinic. Eun-ji gives the name of the device.

Da-eun thinks the clinic and the device are the causes of the face. This is the error of the air and the water. Da-eun sees a result. Da-eun assumes the cause.

Eun-ji stopped taking a specific medication in . The medication caused the face of Eun-ji to hold water. The water is gone now. Eun-ji sleeps seven hours every night. Eun-ji used to sleep five hours every night.

Visible Cause

The Device

Hidden Variable

7 Hours Sleep

The sleep makes the eyes of Eun-ji look bright. Eun-ji does not talk about the medication. Eun-ji does not talk about the sleep. These facts do not seem relevant to Eun-ji. She talks about the device. She talks about the doctor.

Da-eun hears the name of the device. Da-eun wants the device. Da-eun is looking at the result she can see. She is not looking at the variables she cannot see.

The Physics of Resistance

I work as an industrial hygienist. I assess risk. I look at protocols. I look at measurable data. I failed to open a pickle jar today. The jar was glass. The lid was metal. I used my right hand. I used a towel. I used a knife to hit the lid.

The lid did not move. My observation was that the jar was stuck. My data was that my strength was lower than the friction of the seal. I did not blame the brand of the pickles. I did not blame the shape of the jar. I looked at the physics.

EPIDERMIS / DERMIS

SUBCUTANEOUS FAT

SMAS LAYER (Foundation)

A face is physics. A face is a biological structure. A face has layers.

Two Layers of Intervention

The clinic uses a device for lifting. One device is Ultherapy. This device uses high-intensity focused ultrasound. The ultrasound goes deep into the face. The ultrasound hits the SMAS layer. The SMAS layer is a sheet of tissue. The SMAS layer covers the muscle.

The ultrasound creates heat in the tissue. The heat causes the tissue to shrink. This shrinks the foundation of the face. This lifting is for the jawline. This lifting is for a double chin. The change happens deep under the skin.

Another device is Thermage FLX. This device uses monopolar radiofrequency. The radiofrequency hits the dermis. The dermis is the skin layer above the SMAS. The radiofrequency creates heat in the skin.

The heat makes the skin tight. The heat makes the pores look small. The heat helps the skin make collagen. These are two different goals. Most people have both concerns. Most people have sagging and laxity.

The decision between the two devices is a technical decision. The decision depends on the thickness of the skin. The decision depends on the fat in the face.

The Danger of “N=1”

The friend is a sample size of one. In science, a sample size of one is a story. A sample size of one is not data. Eun-ji has thick skin. Da-eun has thin skin.

The device that worked for Eun-ji might not work for Da-eun. If the doctor uses Ultherapy on thin skin, the face might lose fat. The face might look hollow. The hollow face looks older.

The friend looks younger because the friend had the right protocol for her specific face. Da-eun wants the result. Da-eun does not know if she has the same protocol.

A person must understand 써마지 before the person enters the clinic. The clinic is a business. The clinic sells shots. The clinic sells tips.

A tip is a part of the device. The tip touches the skin. The tip is a consumable item. The clinic pays a high price for a genuine tip. The tip has a limit. The tip can only send a specific number of shots.

600

Shots (Eun-ji)

300

Shots (Da-eun’s Quote)

A “lower price” often masks a halved protocol. You cannot compare prices without measuring the energy delivered.

After the shots are gone, the tip is empty. A clinic might try to use a tip more than the limit. This is a risk. A clinic might use a fake tip. This is a risk. The price of the treatment depends on the tip. The price depends on the shot count.

Eun-ji received 600 shots of Ultherapy. Da-eun does not know this. Eun-ji paid a specific price for 600 shots. Da-eun goes to a different clinic. The clinic offers a lower price.

The clinic only gives 300 shots for that price. 300 shots will not produce the same result as 600 shots. Da-eun thinks she is buying the same thing. She is buying a different thing with the same name. She is looking at the name of the device. She is not looking at the protocol.

I look at the pickle jar on the counter. The jar is still closed. The jar is a physical object. The skin is a physical object. You cannot wish a pickle jar open. You cannot wish a face to lift.

You need the correct force. You need the correct angle. You need to know the friction. In a clinic, you need the correct energy. You need the correct depth. You need a genuine tip.

When Da-eun talks to the doctor, she should not talk about Eun-ji. The doctor does not know Eun-ji. The doctor knows the face of Da-eun. The doctor must measure the skin of Da-eun.

The doctor must look at the depth of the fat. The doctor must check the laxity of the tissue. If the doctor only listens to the request for the device Eun-ji used, the doctor is not practicing medicine. The doctor is taking an order.

An order is for a restaurant. A protocol is for a clinic.

Verification

A written quote is necessary. The quote must list the device name. The quote must list the shot count. The quote must state that the tip is a genuine tip. The quote must state that the tip is new.

If the clinic does not provide these details, the price is not a real price. You cannot compare two prices if the details are missing. One clinic might quote for the full face. Another clinic might quote for only the jawline. These are different treatments.

The trust we have for friends is high. The trust we have for data is low. This is human nature. We believe the person we like. We do not believe the chart we do not understand.

But the skin does not care about the friendship. The skin only reacts to the heat. The skin only reacts to the depth of the ultrasound. The skin only reacts to the frequency of the radio waves.

I stopped trusting my friends’ faces. I look at their faces. I tell them they look good. I feel happy for them. But I do not use their faces as evidence.

Their faces are the result of a thousand variables. I do not know the variables. I do not know their sleep schedules. I do not know their medications. I do not know their genetics. I do not know the shot counts they received.

The face is a biological system. An industrial hygienist looks at a system and looks for failure points. The failure point in the lifting decision is the lack of criteria.

People buy the name. People buy the vibe. People buy the “before and after” photo of a stranger. They do not buy a verified protocol.

The water in the Broad Street pump was the problem. The pump looked fine. The water looked clear. John Snow had to look past the appearance of the water. He had to look at the dots on the map. He had to look at the data.

Before you spend a five-figure sum on your face, you must be John Snow. You must look past the glow of your friend. You must look at the map of your own face. You must ask about the pump. You must ask about the depth. You must ask about the shots. You must ask about the tip.

The pickle jar is still on my counter. I will try again tomorrow. I will use a different tool. I will use a tool that increases my leverage. I will not look at a photo of a person who opened a jar.

I will look at the mechanics of the lid. This is how you get a result. This is how you avoid the error of the air. This is how you treat a face.

The clinic is a place for science. The restaurant is a place for friends. Do not mix the two. Look at the data. Verify the protocol. Know the depth. Then, and only then, book the chair.

The result you want is not the face of your friend. The result you want is the best version of your own tissue. That result requires more than a recommendation across a dinner table.

It requires a protocol that matches your anatomy. It requires a doctor who treats the SMAS and the dermis with precision. It requires a genuine device and a full count of shots. Anything less is just looking at the air while you drink from the pump.